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YMCA’s Take Child Protection Very Seriously

November 28, 2011 Comments off

YMCAs take child protection very seriously.  Their extensive policies and attention to safety regarding every program and service make them a leader in “state of the art” child protection policy.  They also know that this alone does not keep children safe in their communities.  They instead recognize the need for leadership at every level to be involved and engaged in protecting children from sexual abuse.  With the health and well being of children and families at the heart of their mission and a long history of tackling tough community issues, Y’s across the country are stepping up to convene leaders and engage the entire community in prevention.

Teaming up to support these local Y efforts, D2L and The Redwoods Group Foundation are providing tools, resources and funding assistance to help YMCAs operationalize wide spread community awareness and education.  Our vision is that Ys, serving as the natural conveners, bring together community leaders, other local child-serving organizations, and policy makers as partners in prevention.  This exciting collaboration is empowering communities with a strategy and a model for creating and sustaining positive change in the protection of children from child sexual abuse.

YMCAs are helping lead a national effort to build community initiatives that increase awareness of the problem of child sexual abuse and bring prevention to the local level.  A key to their success with such initiatives is their ability to bring together the right people and resources to facilitate change in communities nationwide.  Locally, they do this every day generating solutions to challenges facing their communities.

While community prevention initiatives across the country are having an impact, Y’s have the ability to exponentially increase participation in the effort.  Serving over 9 million children and 12 million adults in 10,000 communities they can be the most effective and efficient pathway to reducing child sexual abuse.  In addition, one of the Y’s focus area is social responsibility, and their emphasis on youth development makes them a natural partner to address this issue.  As former Y CEO, Ralph Yohe stated, “Y’s are uniquely position to take a leadership role in prevention as we are often at the heart of a community, we have a long history of tackling community issues, and bottom line, the protection and well being of children is part of our mission.”

Thanks to the impact YMCAs have on kids, families and communities—and the sheer number of communities they serve—this “Y movement” will lead the way in engaging the largest group of citizens yet in child protection!

YMCA Background

In early 2009, The Redwoods Group, a commercial specialty insurance group based in NC and one of the largest insurers for YMCAs, contacted Darkness to Light to explore synergies between the two organizations.  Redwoods felt that they could provide benefit to their clients by adding Stewards of Children prevention curriculum to their training offerings, believing that the empowering and emotional elements of the program would augment the policy and procedure training components that were also necessary.

Kevin Trapani, founder and CEO of Redwoods, had a bigger vision.  The Redwoods Group is a privately‐held, Certified B Corps that takes their responsibility for the safety of children at Y’s across the country very seriously.  Not only that, social responsibility is at the core of everything Redwoods believes so it wasn’t enough to just address child safety within the 4 walls of a Y.

A collaboration begins…In 2010, the social enterprise’s Foundation made a commitment to facilitate community‐based child sexual abuse prevention through YMCA’sOver the past three years, the Redwoods Group Foundation has dedicated significant time, energy, and financial capitol to protect children from the trauma of sexual abuse. Collaborating with Darkness to Light, a Stewards of Children “seed fund” was created to assist YMCAs in starting community initiatives.  The Foundation has two staff members working to bring YMCAs together to propel the effort to scale.  Their goal is to help YMCA’s engage community partners in child sexual abuse prevention and intervention.  Ultimately, they hope the effort will be expanded to all YMCAs.

Via d2l

Anny is a Steward’s of Children Authorized Facilitator and Prevention Specialist who trains adults to prevent, recognize and react responsibly to child sexual abuse through Darkness to Light’s certification programs.  Please contact Anny to bring Prevent Now! community meetings your area and to arrange Steward’s of Children trainings.  You may contact her via email, anny@annyjacoby.com or 919-225-1421.

Take care and STAY SAFE!

What Can We Learn From Penn State?

November 27, 2011 Comments off
It’s unfortunate that it takes national headlines to get people talking about a problem that is all too prevalent in our society but we can take advantage of this opportunity to shine the light on the issue of child sexual abuse and recognize that we all have a responsibility to protect children.
  • We’ve learned that this issue is not about big universities, celebrity, or the Catholic Church.  It’s not about reputations, or legacies or any one institution.  This issue is about children.
  • We’ve learned that we have to step into the reality that there are people in our midst that would rob children of their innocence and they are people we know and trust.  They will go out of their way to appear above reproach and they will infiltrate our families and organizations where they can have easy access to children.
  • We’ve learned that it takes tremendous courage for children and adults that have been abused to come forward.  We must support and honor this courage and work together to ensure their story is not handed down to other innocent children.
  • We’ve learned that child safety is the job of an adult.  Teaching children how to keep themselves safe from abuse is important, but adults bear the burden of stepping up and speaking out when something doesn’t look or feel right with respect to the wellbeing of a child.  We’ve learned that it may or may not be our legal responsibility as mandated reporters depending on where we live but morally it is the right thing to do.  If you see something or suspect abuse, call the police.
  • We’ve learned that the ramifications of not acting responsibly are clear.  More abuse occurs, more children are harmed, fewer children get the help they so deserve.  To be silent bystanders is to be complicit in its occurrance and wake. To intervene is to ensure that a child is treated and supported, that they are healed and better protected from potential lifelong hardships of trauma.
  • We’ve learned that child sexual abuse is preventable.  We can learn the facts, we can acknowledge the reality, we can talk to others adults, we can ensure youth serving organizations have comprehensive child protection policy, and we can talk to our children.  Awareness and education is the answer.
  • The fight against child abuse cannot be the job of one agency; it has to be a collaborative effort.  It will take all of us to change culture–to one where engaged adults offer no place for a perpetrator to commit their heinous acts and no access to children.
  • We can be stuck in the shock and horror of what happened at Penn State staying focused on who knew what and when or we can pledge right now to stay focused on the things we can do today that better protect children.  Let Penn State serve as a wake-up call.  Will we stay vigilant or will we again become complacent when the smoke clears?

Ways to Get Involved

Via d2l.org

Anny is a Steward’s of Children Authorized Facilitator and Prevention Specialist who trains adults to prevent, recognize and react responsibly to child sexual abuse through Darkness to Light’s certification programs.  Please contact Anny to bring Prevent Now! community meetings your area and to arrange Steward’s of Children trainings.  You may contact her via email, anny@annyjacoby.com or 919-225-1421.

Take care and stay safe.

Child Sexual Abuse Community Awareness Meetings Being Planned…

November 19, 2011 Comments off

The Darkness to Light’s child sexual abuse program(s) are trainings across the United States.

Have you taken a stance again CSA?  If not, why not?  Call or email me to plan Darkness to Light’s Child Sexual Abuse Community Meetings, Prevent Now! (45 mins) and/or “Stewards of Children”, two-and-a-half training sessions for adults.  Darkness to Lights program seeks “to empower adults through awarness and educational programs to PREVENT, RECOGNIZE AND REACT RESPONSIBLY to childhood sexual abuse. 

“The only public good thing that came out of the horrible Penn State situation is it’s brough major attention to Child Sexual Abuse.”  Take a stance, NOW!

Take care and STAY SAFE!

Teens Using Vodka-soaked Tampons To Get Drunk!!!!…..

November 12, 2011 1 comment

PARENT ALERT! 

Teenagers have found a new way of getting drunk  by inserting vodka-soaked tampons into their vaginas.  And it’s not just girls; boys are inserting the alcohol-drenched feminine hygiene products in their rectums.

The disturbing trend, first  noted by the Oxford Journals in 1999, said the teens experience “rapid onset of effects, lower doses of  alcohol are required for intoxication, and the reduced likelihood of recent  alcohol consumption being being detected on the breath,” all contributed to the  popularity of this method of abusing alcohol.

The problem in local high schools and said the growing number of incidents  related to  students immersing tampons in vodka has school officials concerned  for student safety.

This is not isolated to any school,  any city, any financial area. This is everywhere. There’s been documented cases of people going to the  hospital with alcohol poisoning just from utilizing it that way.

It was definitely not just  girls using the tampons to get drunk; rectal beer bongs is another  bizarre trend created under the same concept and is becoming as popular as beer bongs  used at college drinking bashes. It is called “butt chugging.”

Students are  inventing new ways to consume alcohol that is less detectable by their parents  and teachers. He suggests parents become more involved in their children’s lives  to combat these problems of alcohol use among teenagers.

Students would obtain a “quicker high” and the effects  are “more intense” then through oral consumption. It’s problematic because you  don’t really know how much you’re going to absorb.

Vodka-soaked tampons,  which contain about a shot of alcohol, can cause “mucosal irritation to the  vagina” or rectum. The trend could have life-threatening  consequences. If the person does pass out or lose consciousness, health care  professionals won’t necessarily know that they have to look in those areas and  that may delay treatment.

The myth persists among  teenagers that if they use alcohol-soaked tampons they would “pass a  breathalyser test because they didn’t actually drink the booze.”  But this is  untrue.  A breathalyser  checks what’s in your blood-stream not the amount of booze on your breath and  wouldn’t change the blood alcohol content determined by the test.

So, parents….you must get involved in our children’s life no matter what age.  Stop trying to be a friend but rather a “parent” – it’s your job and responsibility to know what is happening in your daughter and/or son’s life.  Becoming educated is the first step but then you must follow-up and through with your responsibility.  This is serious and deadly.

When I stumpled upon this article and kept reading and as stated medical journals made this annoucement back in 1999; well, I was even shocked.  I can imagine you are as well.  Who would have “thunk”? *Shaking my head.  Damn kids will try/do anything being stupid.

Take care and STAY SAFE!

 

 

Homeschool or Public High School for Courtney Alexis Stodden? (Child bride of Doug Hutchison)

June 23, 2011 4 comments

Star Jones tweeted the following, “sexual deviance is not a “preference”. I “prefer” to live in Buckingham Palace…but if I go there uninvited…they will arrest me.

“Ok, ok, let me catch you up in case you haven’t heard…Doug Anthony Hutchison, the Lost actor, 51 and minor teen, Courtney Alexis Stodden, age 16 has caused quite a stir in the media as they revealed that they were married in May in Las Vegas. I can just imagine the look on your face and what you are thinking at this moment – my head actually hurts from shaking it from side to side.

The first question that is raised is…”is this legal?” According to the marriage license page for Clark County, Las Vegas, it’s easy. Minor applicants who are 16 or 17 years old can obtain a marriage license with two things: an original or certified copy of their birth certificate, and a parent or legal guardian who will provide his or her consent. Answer: Yes.

Minor Courtney’s mom, Krista Stodden, approved of her daughter’s marriage despite the 35-year age difference and that at least one of Courtney’s parents did sign the necessary permission form. Mr. and Mrs. Stodden seem to adore Hutchison and that they are both supportive of the marriage.

So many things come to mind with this relationship/marriage; I honestly do not know where to begin. What compelled Hutchison to marry a “child”/minor or even have an interest in any way?

Doug Anthony Hutchison -

Hutchison was born May 26, 1960 (51 years old this year), known for his roles in The Green Mile, The X-Files, Lost and 24. He owns the production company, Dark Water, Inc. Hutchison’s first marriage lasted two years and is now married to minor, Courtney Stodden.

Courtney Alexis Stodden -
When Stodden was born Toy Story was all the rage in theaters, Bill Clinton was busy achieving a budget surplus, and Crystal Pepsi had just been taken off the shelves.

Star Jones hit the target as it is apparent that Hutchison definitely has sexual desires and behaviors considered to be unusual or abnormal, i.e. sexual preference is a child. And, the majority of individuals with a sexual deviation (if caught) would be in trouble with the law. A sixteen year-old teenager does not have the insight nor maturity to make a rational decision to marry nor to be seriously involved to this degree. The honeymoon phase will dissipate and then what?

As a parent, I am appalled that her parents would condone their daughter’s wishes, behavior and actually give her permission to marry or even consider dating this man. Hutchison is older than her father! The majority of parents who would do this (if caught) would be slammed with human trafficking charges. Think about it. Does anyone else see $$$$$$$$$$ in this arrangement?

It’s surprising that Courtney was required to produce her birth certificate and permission form (reminds me of field trip requirements for kids) – the majority of people are feeling that she is older than 16 by her appearance. The Officiator was on his/her toes with this ceremony.

A further note of consideration – Nevada lawmakers really need to re-think, add and move to the top of their agenda to abolish this existing law that is in place that allows minors 16 and 17 years old to wed in their state. What does it truly say about the moral’s of the lawmakers of Nevada? I know, I know….if there’s a will, there’s a way but this is truly allowing child sexual abuse to exist without any ramifications – no law to protect these kids. And, neither kids, parents or ephebophile’s (the sexual preference of adults for mid-to-late adolescents, generally ages 15 to 19; in sexual ethics it may be defined as a sexual preference for girls generally 14-16 years old and boys 14-19 years old.) need additional encouragement or avenues to assist in their deviant ways.

And, will Courtney be homeschooled or will she attend a high school near Hutchinson’s home? Or will she eventually get her GED? She is a child, perhaps outwardly mature for her age but she is only 16…..only of legal age to get a driver’s license.

Are you feeling the mix of everything that smells soooooooooo wrong in ALL ways?

Many feel that this marriage was truly for promotional purposes only and they are certainly getting the attention. For how long, only time will tell. You can listen to Courtney’s music on her website – you decide. It is understood that Courtney is a client of Hutchison’s production company, Dark Water, Inc. where she is attempting to promote a CD.

Personally, I don’t care for her music nor am I fan of Hutchison but I do care about the message that is being sent to other “kids” who may listen to her music and become fans. I am hoping that parents are tuning into their “kids” and at least are in the same chapter. Not always are we on the same page with our “kids”. It’s imperative to at least be in sync with them.

Take care and STAY SAFE!

MTV’S “SKINS”: Crossing The Line…

January 25, 2011 2 comments

MTV’s new racy show “Skins” is everywhere attracting more than 3 million viewers. Unfortunately the new show seems to be a hit.  However, it’s already running into trouble for it racy cocktail of sex, drugs and teenagers.

Reports have raised major concern that it is crossing the fine line of child pornography with executives at MTV’s parent company, Viacom which has asked MTV to “tone down some of the most explicit content”.  Taco Bell, H&R, Wrigley, GM, Schick and Subway have pulled its ads from the show after an outcry from the Parents Television Council.  Keeping that the show’s actual cast of teenagers, the PTC is “asking the Department of Justice and U.S. Senate and House of Judiciary Committees to open an investigation. MTV’s cop out to several outlets indicate, “We are confident that the episodes of “Skins” will not only comply with all applicable legal requirements, but also with our responsibilities to our viewers.”

Yes “Skins” does infact cross the line and the filming of nudity that may not be seen on television is infact child porn; they have it all on tape.  Unfortunately Skins is the unfortunate reality in many lives of our teens but they DO NOT need encouragement nor to receive the wrong message that it’s okay to partake and act the way that the show is being directed.

On the other hand………yes, it is the responsibility of the parents to “patrol” and be in their kids business ALL OF THE TIME.  You cannot be their “best friend”, you have to be the “P-A-R-E-N-T”.  Our kids are exposed to way too much at way too early of ages; however, NOT ALL TEENS ARE GOING DOWN THESE PATHS.

“Skins” does not deserve the recognition that everyone is putting out there.Many teens are voicing their opinions by stating that the show is ridiculous and that the storyline is terrible.  Many teens are also pleading that the show be taken off of the air because the producers obviously CANNOT relate to teens these days.  All of the teens on Skins look like immature, irresponsible kids.  Ask REAL teenagers of America how things really are in high school.  Adults will be surprised to know that many are incredibly responsible and smart.  Hey as we all know, there are kids out there that act like this show but is it truly to the extent of what is being portrayed?  They are partaking in drugs and sex – let’s be real but again this show is condoning and basically advertising various methods and ideas to our young people and in essence condoning the action.

“Skins” also gives parents yet another reason to view teenager’s as “irresponsible” and “dangerous”.  One question posed is “because it happens in real life does that mean that it’s OK to make a show about it?”  The show is going to encourage more of that behavior.

If you’re a good, concerned parent, your kids will probably watch Skins and be upset just like you. If you’re not, you’re kids are probably doing what you’re seeing on that television and you should shut it off and get involved. Period.

Parents – it’s time to take action in your homes, it’s your J-O-B.

There is no controversy to this show is in my book.  It is downright degrading, demeaning, condones irrational behavior and the fact that it is explicit child porn (those under the age of 18) must be addressed and yes…………YANKED!

Special Investigation: The Silent Crimes On College Campuses: The Susan Murphy Milano Show: Monday June 28, 2010 at 9:00 PM EST and 8:00 PM CST

June 28, 2010 1 comment

Special Investigation: The Silent Crimes On College Campuses: The Susan Murphy Milano Show: Monday June 28, 2010 at 9:00 PM EST and 8:00 PM CST

The “CLERY Act,” requires institutions of higher education receiving federal financial aid to report specified crime statistics on college campuses and to provide other safety and crime information to members of the campus community.

But what happens when a University tries to hide and cover-up serious violent crimes on campus?

Join us as we investigate and discuss the silence on the college campus at Husson University in Bangor, Maine. And the tragic murder of Yeardley Love at the University of Virginia.

Our amazing line-up for tonight’s show includes Anny Jacoby, Owner/President of The Realistic Female Self-Defense Company.

Dr. James F Anderson a Professor in the Department of Criminal Justice at East Carolina University. Dr. James F. Anderson is a noted author of several books. he received a Ph.D. in Criminal Justice from San Houston State University and a M.S. in Criminology from Alabama State University.

Peter Hyatt Investigator, State of Maine Statement Analysis Laboratory for Scientific Interrogation and Consultant on Crime Wire a show about unsolved and suspicious deaths.

Time: 9:00 PM EST 8:00 PM CST 7:00 PM PSTCall-in Number: (347) 326-9337

Show Link: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/susanmurphymilano

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